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57 Things Every Man Should Own to Win at Life

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Last Updated: Apr 4, 2024
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Ever found yourself stuck in the rain with a wonky, bargain-barrel umbrella that would be of better use to a suicidal Mary Poppins?

How about bringing home a date knowing that you haven’t washed your only set of bed sheets since The Unspeakable Accident of 2019?

If you answered yes to either of the above, this list is undoubtedly for you.

It’s not about being materialistic. It’s about understanding that the things you surround yourself with are an indication of your values, confidence, and self-respect.

These are the 57 things every man should own.

A Well-Made Weekend Bag

Bespoke Post Weekender Bag Outside Sitting At Feet of Model on Stairs Wearing Jeans and Boots Close Up

You will notice a trend as you develop into a self-respecting adult man.

The growing importance of appropriateness. Appropriate clothing, appropriate demeanor, and in this case, an appropriate bag.

An impromptu weekend away with a new girlfriend? Mid-week work excursion? You’ll need a bag that is the perfect size to carry around a couple of days worth of things while still being manageable enough to handle with ease. Meet my good friend, the weekend bag.

I haven’t found a better quality bag for the price than the lundi Weekender.

lundi Weekender

The lundi is pretty much the GOAT of weekenders. Beyond its beautiful full grain leather and sturdy metal buckle construction, this bad boy has a computer pocket, cable pocket, smartphone pocket, outside shoe pockets, and even a flat outside pocket for your passport or ID. We like. Lots.

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This beauty is crafted from Leather Working Group certified full grain leather with a 100% polyester canvas and YKK zipper. It’s super sturdy, fits plenty of stuff with its myriad of built-for-purpose pockets, and looks fantastic.

A Slim Wallet


That’s the number of times you’re allowed to tell the joke about how your wallet is so bulky that it puts George Costanza’s to shame.

When the laughter ends (and it will), it’s time to go out and invest in a slim, leather wallet of quality build. Something like this Italian leather card holder from Roderer is a good choice:

Roderer Italian Leather 4CC Card Holder

Slim, but with a wide opening for your poker winnings, this Italian handmade leather beauty is the kind of wallet that makes you feel like a total boss every time you whip it out.

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Or if you prefer the bifold style, Luca Faloni makes one of our favorites:

Luca Faloni Bifold Cardholder

Made in Florence with full grain vegetable tanned leather, the Luca Faloni Bifold Cardholder is a pocket prince in nearly every respect. It features four card slots plus four sleeves, comes with a luxury dust bug, and fits ever so sleek in your pocket due to its compact dimensions. We like.

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As a general rule, only place those cards and items in it you use on a weekly basis. If you go a week without using an item in your wallet, take it out and leave it at home.

A Book Collection

A reader lives a thousand lives before he dies. The man who never reads lives only one. George R.R. Martin

Make no mistake.

A book collection doesn’t kick off this list by accident. Reading is the crowning workout for your mind. It boosts intelligence, improves memory function, makes you more empathetic, and helps you relax.

These are crucial functions in every aspect of a man’s life. As an avid reader, your conversation will be more interesting, your relationships more rewarding, your training performance will improve, and you will make better financial decisions.

Does Reddit count as reading? I can’t believe you just asked me that.

Our Read of the Month
Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones

No book had a bigger impact on my life than this one. Fullstop. I went into it thinking it was just another overhyped self-help book. Fast-forward three months later and I was shocked at the quantifable results of the small, consistent habits that this book helped me both build and break. Reading it will offer a no-brainer ROI on your time.

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Further Reading: 75 Books Every Man Should Read Before He Dies

A Versatile Pair of Shorts

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The doorbell rings and you’re not quite on eye-contact-in-your-underwear terms with your mailman…

Or let’s be more realistic—you need to run a few errands in town but then you want to hit the gym on the way home.

This is where a versatile pair of do-it-all shorts come in, and I believe every man needs a pair in his life.

Handvaerk’s Flex Shorts hit this sweet spot for me. Made from Peruvian Pima cotton and elastane they’re incredibly comfortable and have side and back wallet pockets to keep your wallet and keys where you want them.

håndværk Flex Shorts

My search for an ultra comfortable pair of do anything shorts led me to these and I'm pretty glad it did. Crafted from 95% cotton and 5% elastane and with an easy fitting drawstring, the Flex Shorts are comfortable and versatile, which is what I'm all about when it comes to my shorts these days.

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At Least One Pair of Dress Shoes

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I have a dark past. Let me tell you a tale.

As a young man, I thought I could get by with the bare minimum. I have two pairs of shoes—neither very dressy. Things were fine. Until I had to go to a funeral, and I only had workout shoes and beat up sneakers. I opted for the sneakers, but I knew I’d made a mistake.

I should’ve had dress shoes, even if I would rarely use them. There are plenty of other, happier reasons to have dress shoes, like weddings, or walking into an office like a total boss. At the very least, you should own one pair of black plain cap toe Oxfords for formal occasions.

The MYRQVIST Äppelviken Black Calf is my pick under $250. It’s goodyear welted so it’ll last for 10+ years (at which point you can resole), handcrafted, and incredibly comfortable. You can choose from a leather (better for rare formal use) or half-rubber sole (better for daily use).

MYRQVIST Äppelviken Black Calf Oxford

The ideal affordable black plain cap toe Oxford doesn't exi---oh, wait. When I first saw that this came in at under $250 I had to do a double take. These beauties are handcrafted in Portugal with a goodyear welted construction and made from full grain French leather. If you don't already have your formal dress shoes locked down, these are well worth a look.

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Your next buy should be a dark brown or burgundy pair for maximum versatility. I really like the Bridlen Melbourne Oxfords—you get a heck of a lot for the money, and they’ll last:

Bridlen Melbourne Oxfords

Find me a more versatile color Oxford than burgundy. I shall wait. And while I'm waiting, I'll keep drinking in these beauties from Arteton. With their oak-tanned leather sole, these are my go-to suggestion Oxford for any guy looking for a stunning pair that will last a decade with proper care.

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And start stocking up on quality socks. Girls notice the holes in your $2 socks from 8 years ago and it’s not a good look. Trust me.

Peper Harow Indulgent Cashmere Socks

You haven't really tried dress socks until you've tried cashmere dress socks, and Peper Harow do it the way we like it. Classy colors, high needle gauge, and just the right fabric mix for consistently luxurious comfort.

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A Polo Shirt

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No Dennis, polos aren’t just for golf.

When I want to step up the class a little bit but it’s too hot for a long-sleeve, a polo is always my go-to.

Go untucked for a casual yet put together vibe, or tuck it into a pair of dress pants for a classy date night look like this one by Collars & Co. (their Semi-Spread below is a best-in-class polo by the way, it feels outstanding):

Collars & Co. Semi-Spread Collar Polo

These guys make my favorite dress collar polo. It's super comfortable with 4-way stretch (feels like a golf shirt) and it offers so much versatility. Throw a sweater or jacket over it and you get a really classy look for or a date or a business casual dress code, without the discomfort of a dress shirt.

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An Electric Toothbrush

Gents, this one really is a no-brainer.

An electric toothbrush means less work and you remove more plaque.

You remove more plaque, and you have better breath.

Your have better breath and Tiffany doesn’t dip for an Uber the minute you go for a kiss.

I’m a sucker for habit tracking apps and so I’ve been on the smart electric toothbrush train for the last few months. I like this quip one because you only have to pair it once to your phone and it syncs your brushing stats automatically there on out via Bluetooth.

quip Smart Electric Toothbrush

If you didn't think they'd eventually come out with an app that pairs with your toothbrush, you haven't been alive for the last 5 years. I've had the quip Smart Toothbrush for a few months now and going back to manual brushing really would feel like going back to 1990. It has strong vibrations, a long-lasting battery, and a sleek and stylish aesthetic. I'm all aboard the smart brush train.

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selfmade sunglasses review vintage style frames
The Selfmade Douglas II

Protect your eyes from our favorite star while looking like a boss. Pretty much every guy looks more attractive wearing sunglasses. Need I say more?

I’m a big fan of the aviator style for its suit-up or dress-down versatility, and my favorite pair is the Johann Wolff Zeppelins for their slightly rounder shape and bang-for-buck build quality.

Johann Wolff Zeppelin Sunglasses

Aviators come in all shapes and sizes, and while I'm not the biggest fans of the aggressive tear drop lens, when they're done in this slightly rounder lens style like these from Miami eyewear stalwarts Johann Wolff, I'm very much on board.

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I’m also really digging Selfmade lately. Their styles are my kind of vintage and they use Italian Mazzucchelli acetate like the big boys but at a fraction of the cost.

Douglass II by Selfmade Sunglasses

These frames have what look like an octagonal shape from the temple and above, but a rounded shape at the bottom. Pair that with a keyhole bridge and two gold details at the front, and you get one sexy looking set of frames. 

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A Face Care Set

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I’m not saying you need to go full American Psycho. But gents, we’ve only got one mug, and like it or not—it’s the first thing that you present to the world anywhere you go.

If you’ve never done anything for your skin beyond hack at it with a razor or beard trimmer, you’ll be amazed at the difference even just a nightly cleanse and moisturize will do for your complexion. It’s undoubtedly one of the simplest things you can do to look better.

My go-to is Geologie because it’s actually noticeably improved how my skin looks, but roll with whichever system you like. The most important thing is that you do something.

Geologie Complete 1-Month Personalized Skincare Sample Set
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If you want to treat your skin well and not think too hard about how to do it, Geologie is a great place to start. Their well-known Complete Skincare Trial set checks the major boxes of healthy skin maintenance in an easy-to-use system.

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A Passport

American Passport

To travel is to take a journey into yourself. Danny Kaye

Inspirational quote aside, traveling is one of the most cost-effective investments you can make in yourself as a man. You’ll widen your cultural understanding, gain new insights, meet new people, and get to tell crazy stories about the time you drank eight liters of mint tea in an hour when you went to Morocco.

And guess what? You’ll be a more informed and entertaining person to be around (i.e. more interesting to date/ be friends with).

If you’re unsure about your purpose in life and you don’t have a passport, I’ve just provided you with a purpose for the next two weeks. Get a damn passport and throw a dart at a map.

A Toiletry Bag

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Have a pre-packed wash bag ready to go at all times. Save space in your suitcase/weekend bag and never taste leaked cologne on your toothbrush again.

Something like the Roderer Award Mini Wash Bag is perfect and will last you a lifetime:

Roderer Award Mini Wash Bag

Crafted from premium Italian leather, this dopp kit is one of those purchases you make once in your life but appreciate on every trip you bust it out for. Beyond the build quality, my favorite part is the zipped pocket inside which is ideal for keeping those small tidbits organized that you always end up losing under the hotel counter.

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A Pair of White Minimalist Dress Sneakers

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Jetting downtown to run some errands? White dress sneaker.

Afternoon coffee date? White dress sneaker.

About to be the first man on Mars? Whi…OK, too far.

White minimalist dress sneakers have catapulted in popularity in recent years and I can understand why. They’re hugely versatile and look equally clutch anchoring suit as they do paired with cuffed jeans or chinos.

I always recommend the Oliver Cabell Low 1s to guys looking to get their first pair. They’re made in Italy from full grain calfskin Italian leather which means they last if you look after them (I even put sneaker trees in mine and wipe them down after every wear—yes I am that guy.).

I think they offer the most value for their sub $200 price among their competitors, especially given they’re transparent with their pricing structure so you know where your money is going.

Oliver Cabell Low 1 - White

The Low 1 is Oliver Cabell's most popular shoe, and once you have it in your hands you'll know why. Made in Italy from full grain calfskin Italian leather, it boasts a handsome low-profile silhouette and punches well above its weight for its price point.

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An Age-Worthy Leather Belt

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There are two golden rules when it comes to belts.

Match your belt color with the color of your shoes, and don’t skimp on quality. This advice is as helpful as the “birds and the bees” talk was from your Dad, trust me. This means you should have at least a brown and black belt (or one reversible) in your collection.

I always recommend Luca Faloni for dudes looking to pick up their first quality belt. They’re reversable black/brown for ultimate versatility, but the leather ages very well and develops a beautiful patina the more you wear it.

Luca Faloni Reversible Black/Brown Calf Leather Belt

What's the only thing better than having a reversible black and brown calf leather belt in one? Having one that's handmade in Italy with some of the finest calf leather out there. The buckle is also Italian made and built to last, which is ideal as it's the buckle that usually falls apart first. This isn't cheap, but your belt literally ties your whole outfit together and so it shouldn't be.

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A Go-to Recipe

butcherbox shredded beef tacos with salsa

I’m not saying you need to become a classically trained chef. But every man should have a go-to recipe he’s absolutely mastered.


Date night, poker night, or just setting yourself up with amazing dinners for a busy workweek. There are plenty of reasons to have a top-notch meal at the ready.

My favorite is slow-cooker tacos. I get a pork shoulder, toss it in a crock-pot with some salt and seasonings, and let it go for six to twelve hours—whichever is most convenient for me. Toss some salsa on that and wrap it in a tortilla, and you’re all set.

She’ll be impressed with your good taste and refinement when it’s your turn to cook. And she’ll be even more impressed if you can top off the dish with your own home grown herbs.

A Good Quality Watch

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A watch is not just for subtly hinting that you’re done with that forced coffee catch up with your increasingly distant cousin.

A quality watch (with hands, guys) is the quintessential complement to any outfit. Match the color of your watch band with your belt and shoes.

If dive watches are your jam, you can’t go past the Baltic Aquascaphe for value:

Our Favorite Value for Money Diver
Baltic Aquascaphe

Measuring a highly versatile 39mm in width (47mm lug-to-lug), French microbrand Baltic bring to the conversation one of the finest sub-$1000 dive watches on the market with the Aquascaphe. We particularly love its clean design lines and symmetry, unique "grainy" dial finishing, and particularly the aesthetic of the black / cream variant.

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Whilst the Vaer C5 (pictured above) is one of my picks of the year, and is well worth a look if you dig the field watch style:


Featuring a Swiss Ronda movement, domed sapphire crystal, and coming with two straps, this military-inspired field watch by Vaer is easily one of our favorite affordable timepieces.

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For more budget picks, take a look at our list of 18 Best Automatic Watches Under $500 in 2021. And if you’d enjoy the surprise of a new watch delivered to your door every month, check out our Watch Gang review.

A Quality Pair of Boots

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Boots separate the men from the boys.

I’m sure you’ve heard that shoes are one of the first things a woman notices in a man, and it’s absolutely true.

Yes, sneakers have their place, but a quality pair of boots will give you an air of maturity and elevate a meh outfit to hell yeah.

My favorite type of boot is the Chelsea boot. They’re super versatile, and if you go for a dressier option, you can easily pair them with a suit. Speaking of which, William is rocking one of our favorite dress Chelsea boots above—the Troy from Ace Marks.

Suede Chelseas are also a TAM favorite due to the extra character you get from the suede texture, and the good year welted Bridlens offers a lot of bang for your buck:

Bridlen Dark Snuff Suede Chelsea

A snuff suede Chelsea is a sophisticated add to any well-rounded man's closet, and if you want to get it right the first time then you can do a lot worse than Bridlen. What I love about these is they have a unique elastic closure system which means you can get in and out of them more easily than other Chelseas.

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For a dressier pick in leather, I really like the MYRQVIST Granhult:

MYRQVIST Granhult Dark Brown Calf Chelsea

I always figured a whole-cut leather goodyear welted Chelsea under $300 would never exist. That was until I found the Myrqvist Granhult. Handcrafted in Portugal, this sleek dressy Chelsea is finished with a studded rubber sole and offers a heck of a lot of value for its modest price point.

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And for a more casual option, the Thursday Boots Captain are an institutional menswear staple. They’re a good blend between rugged and dressy, so you can wear them with both jeans and chinos and pull the style off flawlessly.

Thursday Boot Company Captain

The Thursday Boots Captain is an excellent deal. The leather is similar to Horween's Chromexcel, so it has a subtle shine and plenty of rugged durability. When (if?) these ever wear out, I’ll be picking them up again.

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Further Reading: 16 Types of Boots Every Guy Should Know About

Deodorant That Actually Works

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Like your Dad always said in his creepier moments, fake isn’t always better than natural. And the same applies to deodorants as well.

Yes, switching to a natural deodorant is a process that causes your body to detox. You’ll smell a bit more for a few weeks while your body gets used to it.

But trust me, it’s worth it. After about three weeks, you’ll sweat less, smell better, and you won’t be spraying nasty chemicals on your body anymore. Win, win, win.

My go-to right now is Oars + Alps Natural Deodorant—it kills the stink, it doesn’t ruin my clothes, and it smells decent.

A Manscaping Kit

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Put yourself in a woman’s shoes.

With the option of taking the carefully maintained pathway, would you really want to dive headfirst into the forest?

I’m a big fan of Meridian’s range of products for your grooming and manscaping needs. Coming with both a trimmer and spray, their Complete Package in particular, offers great value for money:

Meridian Complete Package
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Trim up those acorns and hit 'em with the spray so they don't get razor-bumps. Give your balls a spa day, bro.

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Dress Shirts

State and Liberty 4 1

Want to hear a secret?

When you walk around in your faded “Mr Men” t-shirt you are not telling the world, “I’m a quirky yet lovable guy with a great sense of humor”.

You are telling the world, “My Mom made my breakfast this morning”.

Start dressing like an adult and incorporate more dress shirts into your wardrobe. It seems obvious, but when choosing colors, select shirts that will match well with your selection of chinos and jeans.

I like State & Liberty right now for dress shirts. They’re premium (and yes, they have a premium price tag), but they’re easily the most comfortable dress shirt I’ve worn.

State & Liberty Dress Shirts

The fit on State & Liberty's dress shirt is excellent, even for guys who aren’t jacked. The two darts placed in the back tapers the waist significantly and creates a flattering silhouette. And the way the sleeves are cut help emphasize your shoulders. Yep, you're looking good.

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They’re designed for athletes so they use performance fabric, they’re tapered for a flattering fit, and did I mention they’re insanely comfortable? To learn more about S&L, check out my full review.

If you’re in the UK, give Neem a look:

Neem Recycled Sky Print Comfort Shirt

If you're in the UK and you shop with an environmental conscience, Neem may be the dress shirt brand you've been looking for. Their comfort shirt leans into the latest performance fabric trend with its stretch, comfort, and technical feel, while also being made from 70% recycled nylon which generates nearly 9 times less CO2 emissions than standard nylon. We're here for it.

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A Quality, Sharp Chef’s Knife

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Listen guys, a butter knife is for buttering your toast. For general all-purpose meal preparation, get yourself a Chef’s knife. At least 6 inches in length.

The best part? If treated with care and always used with a cutting board, you’ll only ever need one. As you continue to sharpen it and cook with it more and more, it’ll start to feel like an old companion.

Wusthof Classic 8-Inch Chef's Knife

Made in the European style with German steel, Wusthof's are known for keeping an edge and working through tough materials with ease.

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Training Shoes

Model doing abs in York Athletics

Outside of playing ball, your Converse shoes are for impressing girls at a Taylor Swift concert. Not for getting a workout in.

Take the plunge and invest in some quality training shoes that fit you well. Your ankles and knees will thank you for it.

If you’re not going to be running marathon type distances, you can’t go wrong with these:

The Gail Recovery Trainer from YORK ATHLETICS

The upper is made of a jersey-like material with a 2-way stretch that allows your forefoot to spread out and relax after an intense session. The sole is composed of EVA foam that results in a comfy, cloud-like bounce that takes the pressure off.

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A Signature Scent

Cologne for Men - Male Model Wearing Charcoal Suit With Pink Shirt And Holding Hawthorne Play Fragrance Side Angle
Custom cologne from Hawthorne based on your work and leisure lifestyle.

There are a lot of benefits to rocking a signature scent. Sure, it’s fun to try different fragrances throughout the year, but every guy should strive to find a single fragrance that fits their personality and lifestyle. It’s not as easy as it sounds.

But you know you’ve done it right when she asks to borrow your old sweatshirt and never brings it back.

I own over 100 fragrances (including samples) and these are my top three highly versatile (all-season, day/night) signature scent choices for every budget:

All three of the above are absolute compliment magnets.

For a more customized option, check out Hawthorne. They’ll ask you some questions about your lifestyle and pair you with two custom fragrances just for you.

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By asking the right questions, Hawthorne was able to deliver me custom colognes and bathroom essentials at a solid price point, and while I was hesitant to leave my choice of fragrance up to someone else, Hawthorne won my seal of approval on the first spray.

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A Pocket Knife

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Pocket knives are for more than just cutting open Amazon boxes at record speed. They’re for more than busting out, just to hear your girl say, “please don’t hurt yourself.” They’re for more than slashing open Grandma’s Christmas present open like a boss.

A good pocket knife is a companion. Take it with you camping, store one in your car, or just clip it in your pocket for when you need it.

My favorite is the Civivi Elementum, crafted from D2 steel:

Civivi Elementum Pocket Folding Knife

Combine razor sharp D2 steel, a liner lock for safety, plus a range of stylish color options, and what do you get? You get the highly regarded Civivi Elementum pocket knife, of course.

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A Grooming Kit

Man has evolved beyond going to battle with other tribes with our long toenails as weapons. Invest in a grooming kit. At the very least, you should own a quality set of tweezers and nail clippers.

Here’s my go-to kit for all your manly needs:

MANSCAPED Shears 2.0

Women notice if you chew on your fingernails. Proper nail care is part of a top-notch manscaping routine.

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It’s good quality and has everything you need.

A Classy Pen

Man writing with a classy pen

Story time:

I used to work for a guy who owned a few local businesses, and one day he took me around to a few of his meetings. He wasn’t all that great at negotiation, so he was one of those reverse-mentors. He was about to do a deal with the guy on the other end of the table when his counterpart busted out a hefty, high-quality pen.

How do I stop losing my pens?

I had this problem for years. Until I bought a nice pen, I couldn’t seem to keep track of any of my writing utensils. When you. drop $10 or more on a single pen, you tend to remember exactly where it is, day or night.

Sensing he was outmatched, my mentor suddenly threw in extra free product, just to prove he too was a man of largess. I’ve never seen anything like it.

And it was that day I realized that having a classy pen on you is always a smart idea.

Everyman Grafton Pen

I literally have an emotional attachment to this pen. It’s sturdy, writes smoothly, and its refills are inexpensive. Plus, it’s handsome looking and has the kind of heft that makes you feel like everything you write is incredibly important.

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A Hip Flask

Hip Flask in Winter

Time to dispel a misconception—hip flasks aren’t just for drunkards.

Heading out for an afternoon in the park with friends? Going on a fishing trip with the boys? Taking a long train trip with a girl you’re dating? A hip flask is the perfect accessory when bringing a whole bottle of liquor would be inappropriate or overkill.

The amount of times I’ve been able to share the love and kick the vibe up a notch with my friends or a date has made owning one of these little guys oh so worth it.

I have the Stanley Classic Flask—it’s the perfect size and has served me well:

Stanley Classic 8oz Flask 8oz with Never-Lose Cap

When it comes to hip flasks, this is the one. It's the perfect size and weight to be truly pocket friendly. It feels sturdy in the hand and is rugged and rust-proof. Oh, and most importantly---it has a wide mouth opening so your booze will actually go where you want it to go.

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A Pair of Joggers

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Chill Sunday with the Vuori Sunday Performance Jogger

Life isn’t always so serious. Sometimes a man just needs to wear stretchy pants.

Whether you’re getting ready to jet off on an overnight flight, or your cruising to the local brewery for a Sunday afternoon pint to catch up with the buds, a high-quality pair of joggers helps you balance style and comfort.

My favorite type of joggers are the kind you can wear in the gym and out on the town. Usually the fabric is a bit thinner, and there’s more room in the thighs. A great example is the Vuori Sunday Performance Jogger, and if you ever catch me on an evening stroll, I’m probably rocking these.

Vuori Sunday Performance Jogger

If you're looking for a performance-based pair of joggers, Vuori has you covered. This fabric is super lightweight and breathable, and the waist band and taper below the knee help keep them secure, even during your most intense HIIT circuit.

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A Tailored Suit

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We’ve all spotted the guy wearing the suit that is so big it looks like it’s about to swallow him whole. You know the look. The puffy shoulders and not an inch of cuff in sight. You can almost hear the local missing person announcement as you watch him disappear deeper into the abyss of oversized fabric.

If you’re one of these guys, firstly, I’m glad that you made it out alive. Secondly, with the affordability of modern tailoring, this is something you can and should fix as a priority.

A tailored suit is the hallmark of your wardrobe. Yes, it is a small investment, but it is one that you will only have to make once (provided Bulking Season isn’t on the cards). The pay-off? A timeless look that will inspire self-confidence while offering a lot more comfort than your uncle’s former prom suit ever did.

As to colors? Build a tailored collection of navy, charcoal, and light grey suits. In that order. Once you have the staples down, you will undoubtedly be keen to expand to the blue suit / brown shoes combination.

Drink-Appropriate Glassware


Ever been served a glass of wine at someone’s house in what could only be a described as an old Nutella jar?

How about a whiskey in a “World’s Best Dad” coffee mug?

I’m two for two and it’s a big reason why “drink-appropriate glassware” makes this list. Know which glass to use for each drink and more importantly, have them clean and on-hand in your kitchen.

For whiskey, you can’t go past this set from Glencairn as an affordable pick:

Glencairn Whisky Glass Set of 4
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And if you want to bring on all the oohs and ahs the next time you host a party, Alchemy from Bespoke Post has everything you need to get your career as a mixologist started:

Bespoke Post Alchemy
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If you want to get into mixology, the Bespoke Post Alchemy box has all you need to get started. The tools are all high quality stainless steel and get the job done, although if you already own a few of them, it’d be hard to justify getting a second set.

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High Quality Luggage

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Traveling with a backpack makes you look like a 5th grader. It’s time to step it up and invest in a set of luggage.

If you’re not ready to go all in, start with a carry on. Then get the big suitcase later. As your station builds in life, you’ll need bigger bags as your vacations will last longer and longer. That’s the kind of problem I like.

Floyd makes my favorite travel luggage set:

Floyd Cabin Travel Case

If you dig 1970s Venice Beach skateboarding culture, you'll dig the retro-cool Floyd Cabin travel cases. Constructed from sturdy Makrolon® polycarbonate and with aluminium handles and laptop holder, these nonconformist beauties are built to survive even the wildest of trips.

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A Well-Fitting Pair of Dark Blue Jeans

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For men’s fashion, there’s nothing more versatile than a quality pair of jeans.

Mott & Bow Oliver

Mott & Bow are our go-to for slim fit jeans in the sub $150 category. The sturdy 13oz denim of the Oliver, paired with its slim profile, makes for a clean and comfortable design that feels like it should be much more expensive than it really is.

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Go formal with a tucked dress shirt, watch and dress shoes. Rock them with a plain white t-shirt and sneakers for a more casual weekend get-up. Or combine white socks with your two-sizes-too-big blue jeans for that classic “retired American tourist on vacation in Europe” look.

I’m kidding. Never do that.

An Indestructible Cooler

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Do you want to be the guy who shows up at the party with a styrofoam gas station cooler, only to have it fall apart in your hands and spill the hot dogs on the floor?

Don’t ruin the party: add to it.

Whether it’s a small 20 qt cooler to bring on a day trip or something more substantial for a weekend away, a well-built, rotomolded cooler is the best way to go.

A Clothes Iron (or Steamer)

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Want to be known as the type of man who doesn’t pay attention to the details? Grow yourself a unibrow that Anthony Davis would be proud of.

Alternatively, don’t iron your shirt.

But please. For the love of all things pure and sacred in this world. Don’t do both.

Last year, I upgraded from an iron and ironing board to a handheld steamer and it has easily been the biggest time-saver decision I’ve made for a while. The best part? It was super affordable:

Hilife Handheld Garment Steamer
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Swim Trunks

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You know how there’s always that guy at the pool party who cannon balls in his boxers?

Don’t be that guy. Get yourself a quality pair of swim trunks that are quick drying and have a boxer brief liner so you don’t need to deal with wet undies. I really like the Volleys by Somewhere Sunny:

Our Favorite Swim Trunks
Somewhere Sunny Volley 7" Recycled Swim Trunks

The best swim trunks are quick drying and have a boxer brief liner so you don't need to rock anything under them. These have both, and they're eco-friendly to boot, made from 12 recycled plastic bottles. The colors are on point too.

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A Coffee Maker that Doesn’t Use Pods

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I don’t know about you, but I rank coffee up there with sex, great conversation, and Arrested Development as one of life’s great pleasures.

However, you don’t always have to buy coffee on the go.

Volcanica Coffee

Fresh roast on demand? Count us in. With over 130 different coffees, including single origins and blends, Volcanica delivers full taste, big body, and top quality.

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Even if you don’t like coffee, consider having a way to make real coffee at home. It’s enjoyable to make, smells great and instantly elevates your score as a dinner host.

If espresso isn’t your bag, you can go more conventional, but still nab a coffee maker that looks like a design piece on your counter.

Chemex Pour-Over Coffee Maker

This pour-over coffee maker not only makes incredible coffee, but it looks fantastic sitting on your counter. Imagine this glass filled with delicious brew, served up on a wooden platter for breakfast in bed. Tell me you're not imagining heaven...I dare you.

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A Wet Shaving Kit

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Your first subscription box from The Personal Barber includes a free safety razor and shaving brush.

Wet shaving really is just about the manliest thing you can do. While that should be reason enough to make the switch, you’ll also experience a cleaner shave and healthier looking skin and it’s much cheaper than cartridge razors.

As a self-respecting man, shaving is going to be a big part of your life forever (yes even you, bearded bushranger). This one really is a no-brainer. What are your waiting for?

Do I shave up or down my face?

Always shave in a downward direction to avoid getting razor bumps and irritating your skin.

If you’re completely new to it and want to give it a try, I recently reviewed a subscription box that may be of interest to you called The Personal Barber (use code TAM15 for 15% off your first box).

They ship you everything you need to get started with traditional shaving, including a free safety razor, shaving brush, and even an instruction booklet. Everything is hand-selected and I estimated that you get about double the retail value as you spend on your first box. They’re UK based but they do ship to the US.

If you’d prefer to make a one-off buy, I picked up this kit a few years ago and was pretty impressed with it:

Gentleman Jon Deluxe Wet Shave Kit

Gentleman Jon's full wet-shave kit makes for an excellent gift (you can give a gift to yourself, too, you know). This has everything you need to get a luxurious shaving experience for several months.

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It’s high quality and includes everything you need to join the respected Wet Shaver’s Club (it may or may not be a real club).

A Shoe Cleaning Kit

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When I see a guy with scuffed dress shoes I have a similar thought to when I see a man with a rat-tail haircut. I think, “that problem could be solved in 10 seconds.”

Shine your shoes and standout as a man that cares about the finer details.

KIWI Shoe Care Kit

This basic shoe care kit comes with a horsehair brush, dauber, polish and cream, and a few micro fiber towels. This is what you need to get started taking care of your leather shoes, boots, and bags.

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How do I polish my shoes?

Take off your laces and knock off the dirt and dust. Apply polish with a rag using circular motions. Buff with a horsehair brush. Wipe with a microfiber towel or shammy. Dampen the towel and buff again to spit shine.

A Tool Set and Workbench

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A man with tools is a man with the desire and means to shape the world he lives in. Plus, when you want to hang that nice picture, do you really want to try and hammer a thumbtack with an empty wine bottle (definitely speaking from experience).

A basic set of tools with make your life vastly easier, and you can get a beginner set for relatively cheap. And when your girl says she need helps with something in her apartment and you bust this out, she may not say anything, but she’ll be thinking “who’s this hunk of a man?”

Black+Decker Drill & Home Tool Kit

I like this tool set because it comes with a drill and all the bits you'd normally need for basic home improvement tasks. If you don't have any tools at all, here's a good place to start.

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A Leather Jacket

One word. Attitude.

Check out Alpha M’s clip above for an excellent rundown on how to choose the perfect leather jacket for you. The Jacket Maker Dean is one of our favorite value for money picks:

The Jacket Maker Dean

This crispy moto-jacket comes in several varieties of leather. If you want bang for your buck, this is where you go.

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A Must-Read Coffee Table Book

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Do you know what would look better than that empty Chinese food container on your coffee table? A stunning, full sized coffee table book that best captures your interests.

It looks great and your guests will thank you for providing them something to skim through when you spend 30 minutes in the bathroom due to drunkenly scoffing down those Chinese food leftovers two days too late.

High-Quality Sheets

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The Egyptians aren’t just great at building pyramids…

If you think your sheets might suck, check out our list of the 5 Best Sheets for Men in 2020 which also includes some basic tips on how to choose the right sheet for you.

Luxor Linens Valentino 1200 Thread Count Egyptian Cotton Sheets

I’ve been sleeping on these sheets for several years now, and I still haven’t gotten over how soft they are. The Egyptian cotton is smooth and slides well against my skin. The material is cozy, but doesn’t cause me to overheat at night. If your budget allows, I don’t think you’ll be disappointed with the Valentino 1200 thread count set.

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Before you walk into a crowded room and start yelling “buy, buy, sell!” I mean more than just stocks. And I definitely mean more than crypto (even though your buddy just went to the moon on Doge and for some reason only talks in strange Reddit meme language now).

Part of winning at life is the constant improvement of your station in life. There are a lot of ways to start investing your money.

Is $1,000 enough to start investing?

Absolutely. The key when you’re starting out is more about learning than it is making a ton of money. The more money you haven, the faster you can learn (and the more your mistakes hurt), but $1000, or even $100, is enough to get started.

What if you don’t have a lot of money?

The first thing you should do is invest in your own skills. One of the best things I ever did was take a $300 course on email outreach. That investment has paid off in previously unimaginable ways. Once you boost your skills and are making a bit more scratch, here are some other investment vehicles to explore:

  • Stocks and bonds
  • Real Estate
  • Starting a company

The idea is that even though you’re starting small, build incrementally, getting 1% better every month. In a decade or so that 1% will make a huge difference in your lifestyle and what you can provide for others.

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In today’s day and age, certain accessories feel like they’re going out of style.

But a classy lad will always have a few old school bits that separate him from the rest. A great pair of cufflinks may be small, but they’re mighty.

Maybe you don’t wear them to the office, but try busting them out at the next wedding you go to. It’s a subtle, but worthwhile flex.

A Piece of Art on the Wall

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Look, sadly it’s time for the Scarface poster to come down. Yes, I know it’s totally awesome but does it really speak to your personality? Find a decor or style of art that does, and slowly introduce relevant pieces into your living space.

Better yet, have a piece “commissioned” on the cheap from an artistic friend. Whether it’s a painting, photograph, or a lifesize replica of your childhood dog, you will enjoy a completely original piece of artwork serving up fresh vibes daily in your home or apartment.

Car Survival Essentials

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A man should be ready to deal with anything that life throws at him, which often requires having the right “things” on hand.

Stowing a few basics like a car jack, tire iron, jumper cables, and a basic first aid kit can be literal lifesavers more than you’d ever expect. And you can often find kits that put everything in one package so it doesn’t take up much room in your trunk.

Throw a few Cliff bars and water bottles in there, and you’re all set should anything happen while you’re on the road.

Kolo Roadside Emergency Car Kit

This kit has all the basics, though I recommend you check to see if you already have a car jack and tire iron. If you don't, you'll need to pick those up separately.

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A Bottle of Scotch for Special Occasions

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Want to be a little more alpha ala Don Draper of Mad Men? You should. Haven’t seen Mad Men? You really should.

There is something undeniably cool about a man who drinks scotch. Dripping with masculinity, it screams to the world that you know what you want out of life and more importantly, that you know how to get it.

Playing Cards

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A deck of cards and a few fun games up your sleeve is a fantastic thing for any man to have. How else can you host poker night?

And keep a few great games up your sleeve (and maybe a few card tricks). What better way to seal the deal with that girl you’re dating than to really wow her stupid little nephew with a basic sleight of hand.

Any deck of cards will do, but I like to have a distinctive set on me. I’m a fidgety guy, so shuffling a deck of cards is helpful when I’m thinking through something. For that, I opt for something with thick cardstock that feels great to hold.

theory11 Provision Playing Cards

theory11 makes a ton of super interesting and high quality playing cards. Whether you want cyberpunk, Star Wars, or just good old fashioned cards, theory11 does it right.

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A Journal

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Don’t bend, don’t water it down, don’t try to make it logical, don’t edit your own soul according to the fashion. Rather, follow your most intense obsessions mercilessly. Franz Kafka

Keeping a journal can change your life. If you’re like me at all, you can get caught up in the day-to-day and easily forget what kind of progress you’ve made toward your goals.

I don’t start my journal entries with dear diary or anything like that—instead, my journal is filled with notes, recipes, to-do lists, grocery lists. Most importantly, I have my long term and short term goals written down.

Every so often, I’ll flip through old journals and I’m always shocked at how far I’ve come since I wrote the entry. That’s not to brag—I think you’d have the same experience.

And the entries only get more and more rich as time passes. I wonder what it’s going to be like when my kids read through what I had to say.

A Tent

Man's view of ocean from tent

There’s nothing more romantic than a camping getaway under the stars. Be a man that owns a tent. Don’t be a man that tries to cook in one.

Who doesn’t want to be the guy people call up when they’re excited to go on an adventure? Tents can be inexpensive and they barely take up any room, so there’s really no excuse not to have one.

Work Gloves

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As a man, there’s no end to the amount of dirty, tough, and rugged jobs we have to do. She asked you to chop back the hedges for the 50th time, and I know you’re thinking, what the heck did the hedges ever do to me?

Well, there’s no point in dwelling. You just need to get in there and do the damn thing. But a good pair of work gloves will make the process much, much easier.

Wells Lamont Leather Work Gloves

These are my favorite work gloves because the natural cow-hide leather picks up a patina within weeks (if you're actually working in them), and they end up looking incredible. Plus, they're super inexpensive and keep your hand safe from the dings and knicks you'd normally get while working in the yard.

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A Towel Collection

Nothing says “thoughtful” like presenting your guest with a freshly washed spare bathroom towel.

Nothing says “sociopath” like suggesting your guest use the same towel you used to mop up Ziggy Stardust’s latest surprise on the couch.

If you need to upgrade, I’m loving the Valentino Luxe Egyptian Cotton Spa Towels from Luxor Linens (pictured above) which we recently reviewed.

I mean, they’re TAM monogrammed, why wouldn’t we love them? You can monogram your own with whatever you like. But feel free to TAM monogram yours as well. More importantly, they’re also made from 100% Oeka-Tex Certified Egyptian Cotton and are incredibly soft.

Luxor Linens Valentino Luxe Egyptian Cotton Spa Towels

Featuring super soft 100% Oeka-Tex Certified Egyptian cotton, this towel set is a game-changer if you're looking to level up your linen game.

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A Grill

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Every man’s home should have a grill. If you don’t know why, you haven’t tasted grilled ribs.

Also, a grill turns cooking from a boring old dinner into a full-blown party. A delightful, rib-filled party.

If you’re looking for ideas, I’m digging The Coleman. You can assemble it quick as a flash and it’s small enough that you can take it camping or anywhere else where it’s appropriate to sizzle delicious meat on the go.

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George Foreman 12-Serving Electric Grill
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A Handkerchief

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Handkerchief, pocket square, hankie, hanks: whatever you want to call them, you should have at least a few in your arsenal. Especially around wedding season.

It might seem cliche, because it is, but handing a fair lady a hanky when she cries at a wedding is one of the most manly things a guy can do. If you’ve never tried it, you’ll suddenly understand why Victorian English guys would wear tall boots and ride horses all day: they felt invincible.

A Home Office

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Remember that time 2020 happened? If that didn’t convince you to get a home office together, I’m not sure how effective I’ll be, but I’ll bring it up again.

The modern man should have a space to work and play that’s clean, comfortable and well lit.

A clean desk is a clean mind and a clean mind limits those Facebook binge-spiral sessions where you end up on your high-school gym teacher’s cousin’s page 4 hours after sitting down to start your project.

A Bicycle

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See more of the outdoors…

Help the environment…

Get fitter while making that third round trip this week home after again staying at that girl’s place who but for those seven drinks should really have been a “swipe left”.

Aventon Pace 500 Next-Gen eBike

The Pace 500 Next-Gen is a remarkably sleek, comfortable, and powerful cruiser with an impressive top speed and range for its price point. If you’re new to ebikes but want to enter the game with some serious momentum, this bad boy serves up the ideal mix of features.

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Noise Cancelling Earphones

Your ears have provided you with years of pleasurable audio experiences. All they’ve ever asked in return is that you keep them at a fair distance from knives scraping against a glass bottle. You feel it just reading it, don’t you?

Why then, do you insist on jamming those cheap and nasty ear-drum zappers inside of them? Trust me, once you opt for quality, you’ll never go back to ear-abuse.

A Gym Membership

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Last but certainly not least, is a gym membership. No, I didn’t say gym selfie—why are you taking your shirt off…?

Your health and your body has an impact on every aspect of your life. From your happiness, to your confidence, to your quality of sleep, to your stress levels, to only hitting snooze four times in the morning as opposed to 10. Look after yourself and good things will follow.

At the very least, have some kind of exercise regime. Whether it’s running, playing social sport, or chasing your cat around the house.

How many of these things can you check off? All of them? Sweet, we’re partying at your house this weekend.

If not, well…

See you at the candle store.